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Alcohol. latley my mom has been getting a little crazy with her drinking friends and as of these last couple ...

Alcohol. latley my mom has been getting a little crazy with her drinking friends and as of these last couple of days she has made me miss school and other random things which i could not reach on the train. Tonight is my last straw, she went out to a casino and keep drunk dialing me so i listened on one of them and over herd her talking about how im "nagging" and how I think im so much better then she is. This is off topic but my father is a raging alcoholic and is gonna die soon, and i have came to agreements with that, and I THOUGHT my mom would understand that with me going through this hard time with my father she would stop being stupid and f***ing grow up, but no. As i am the only male in my house hold my mom thinks that i automatically know how to roof a house and fix sprinklers without ever having a father figure in my life, so she cries and screams at me because I was never tought how to roof a house. she gets drunk over these little things wrong in her life and take them out on me and me only being 17, no car and both sisters out of the house im stuck in this tornado and I get the blame. Ive repainted my door 3 times these last 4 month due to her kicking them and throwing random trinkets she finds around the house. My life could be alot worse and I think about that everyday and every time i punch the wall. I know this rant is all over the place and is short but im glad that i got that off my chest. good night.

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anonymous ranted 6 years, 5 months ago.
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Farrah commented on this rant 5 years, 6 months ago.

If you love her so much I would suggest trying to get her to a therapist (or an intervention) because when/if you move out nothing is going to change. She's going to keep doing the same thing. If you love her you need to find help for her. She might end up ending her life because of everything going on. She's going through a lot and she got an addiction from drinking which is not letting her fight back against her depression. If that makes sense... You really do need to find help for her though.

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Farrah commented on this rant 5 years, 6 months ago.

Dude, you're 17?? Every guy I know by the age of 17 knew how to roof a house! Geez, get with the program!
HAHA, just kidding. That's insane.

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elle commented on this rant 6 years, 5 months ago.

Honestly, I think the psychological damage "scarring" has already been done a long time ago. Probably when he/she was younger and I know calling DSS on parents holds internal conflict but if some parents don't have any control over themselves, something needs to be done. Know why? Because children and kids shouldn't be taking care of their parents. This statement takes into account a child or minor who is dependent on parents income, ie not able to look after their parents and should not be parenting the parent. Simple. If you're a grown person, different story.

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Jasper commented on this rant 6 years, 5 months ago.

This made me realize that when rants are legitimately worth posting, people probably shouldn't be on the internet bitching, but rather calling Social Services or getting official, real life help.

Good luck to you, hopefully things turn out well.

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anonymous commented on this rant 6 years, 5 months ago.

maybe if she was hitting me or doing worse, and its my mother and she has supported me for so long. I know that she is bad and all but like I said she is my mom and I cant live with her but i surly cant live without her.

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Jasper commented on this rant 6 years, 5 months ago.

Speaking as one whose mother worked in Social Services for over a decade primarily in Compton and the neighborhoods in its vicinity, I am most definitely biased, but what's best for you and your health is most likely a foster home.

She may not be physically abusing you, but her actions can be considered negligence (I'm not a lawyer though, don't quote me on that). I know it can be difficult, but leaving her for a more stable home life is going to make a huge difference for your education and general health. I have a lot of friends whose parents are alcoholics, and pretty much all of them have become alcoholics as well. My friend managed to graduate high school, but now he's just stuck doing dead end jobs as a bouncer at clubs or at Costco.

But yeah, this is definitely a difficult decision to make, especially at your age (not that I'm much older..), but I think the best advice I can give you is to make your own decisions; take in the words of others, but don't take them as law. Above all, keep your head up, recognize that your parents are just human beings as you are. Life may seem unfair at times, especially when it seems like you have to cope with so much more than your peers, but it's a growing experience, something that will most certainly distinguish you from everyone else as you grow older.

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ohmygoddess commented on this rant 5 years, 11 months ago.

yea don't u just hate that! people should grow up!

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nachorittos commented on this rant 6 years, 5 months ago.

Holy crap, your mom needs some serious therapy or something. She sounds way too out of control. Seriously, your mom sounds messed up, dude. Has she always been like that?

I think it's really disrespectful for her to talk about you like that. I'm glad you don't have any other siblings with you who have to suffer through that as well. That's not the right type of environment for a kid to grow up in. Child Protection Services would seriously get you the eff out of there in a hurry.

Props to you for keeping a good attitude about it though. I see a lot of users here who seem to be a little weaker-willed than you are, but man, just do your absolute best at school and GTFO of there when you graduate. Or better yet, maybe call Child Protection Services. That should get you a nice quiet family to stay at for a while, so you can focus more on school. You shouldn't have to deal with that kind of stuff at that age. I don't know how you feel about all of that, but I don't think it's a bad option.

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anonymous commented on this rant 6 years, 5 months ago.

I couldn't call child services on my mom, I love her to much even thought she put's me through hell. And I only have 4 more months with her so it will all work out.

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nachorittos commented on this rant 6 years, 5 months ago.

Yeah, I guess I understand. Here's to you, man. Respect.

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anonymous commented on this rant 6 years, 3 months ago.

I am so sorry that this is happening to you. You do not deserve the blame and you DO NOT deserve to be treated this way. By the time I responded to this, you only have two months living with her, correct? That is well and a good way to keep positive. You are really mature and honest, and that is great. Living with an alcohlic parent(s) is extremely hard. Now, Im not saying that your mom is necessarily a raging alcoholic now, but I fear that it could (or is) lead(ing) to that. Your mother (in my eyes--I am not a doctor) has crossed the line between social drinking and a drinking problem. Firstly, I can see this by looking at how it has affected you. Luckily, you are able to recognize the issue and ask for help. I did some online research to see what you could do.
First of all, understand the causes of alcoholism.
Secondly, realize that it is NOT YOUR FAULT. At all.
Thirdly, let your feelings out.
Fourthly, don't depend on your parent or trust what s/he says s/he will do unless your parent has proven that you can depend on him/her. (Realize that you cannot depend on her for things like taking you to school, so make a plan to do something else so you do not HAVE to rely on her--like ride a city bus or catch a ride-- for the time being.)Also, avoid arguing with a drunk parent. It would be beneficial to do things that will take your mind off of the situation at home (healthy things, that is!).
Try talking to your parent when s/he is sober. This would be great for your mom. It may seem cliche, but tell her how you feel, what is upseting you, and what you want in your relationship. I am no doctor, but it seems to me that your mom could very well be on the same path as your father. Talk to her before it starts to get worse. (Keep negative comments to a minimum. Try not to show anger. It is important to be understanding so your parent feels comfortable.)
It is important to remember to not start drinking yourself. You know what it can do and how much it can hurt others and yourself.
If your mom (or your dad) gets abusive, GET OUT.
Lastly, don't be afraid to tell someone. It may seem embarrassing, unnatural, or unsure, but it is important to do. For more on this, go to http://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-an-Alcoholic-Parent http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/families/coping_alcoholic.html http://www.livestrong.com/article/207645-how-do-i-talk-to-a-parent-who-had-a-drinking-problem/ http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2007/02/22/how-can-you-help-your-alcoholic-parent/ http://soberresources.com/?p=46
These are GREAT places to go to. I think it would be really beneficial for you to read what they have to say. Please, take a look. Take care. Hopefully things are all ready improving by the time this comment gets to you.

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tiredofyou commented on this rant 6 years, 4 months ago.

:( Just hang in there. I know you don't want to hear that but if you're close to being 18, you'll be out soon. And if you're worried about your siblings you could possibly take them with you. No one should have to put up with that, and I think you're brave and strong for doing this.

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anonymous commented on this rant 6 years, 5 months ago.

WOW. You should be proud of yourself for being so mature for your age and situation. Good things will always happen to good people. Just be good and do the right thing. Since you have access to the internet and you only have one year left of high school, you should hurry up and do research on what university to attend and what you will major in, along with the financial aid you can get. I'm sure you'll have a bright future if you work for it. Good luck! ^__^

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anonymous commented on this rant 6 years, 5 months ago.

Thanks, yea trust me ive been looking for university's for a while and i have some picked out.

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Bree commented on this rant 6 years, 5 months ago.

i guess this sounds funny, but i need to thank you. I was so depressed today, and i really didnt know how to handle myself, I was going on here to rant about my life, but after hearing your story, my life doesn't seem so bad. I understand that may sound mean to you, and I have no intentions of that. I am just sincearly sorry for what you have to go through. I am the same age as you, and I just felt connected to you. Sorry, I didnt mean to interfere. I just felt like i needed to say something.

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nachorittos commented on this rant 6 years, 5 months ago.

Yeah, happens to me too. I'm like, "Crap, gotta rant about this." Then I read the stuff on here, then I'm like, "Meh, I don't feel so bad anymore."

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Coral commented on this rant 6 years, 4 months ago.

Oh my god, that is horrible. I know what having alcoholic parents feels like.

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BanditBlytheBunnyEater commented on this rant 6 years, 5 months ago.

Awww :(
That sounds horrible

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Project commented on this rant 6 years, 5 months ago.

Ive grown up in an alcoholic family myself and my father has already passed due to it. Just a thought here, maybe your mother has come the realization that your father may pass soon also and she doesnt know how to deal with it. Therefore she does the same. Trust me. Alcohol is a great way to ignore lifes problems. Maybe sitting down and calmly speaking to her about it may help but im guessing it might not also, Depending on her mental state at the time. I think shes so caught up in the "what will i do" stage that she doesnt realize how she is treating you. Im sorry for your situation. I have been there myself and my brother and older sister are both heading into later stages of alcoholism, dt's - jaundice, and neither one will listen to anyone. Its very hard to deal with and i hope the best comes of your situation.

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sessychick13 commented on this rant 6 years, 5 months ago.

Your mom is clearly an idiot. Your mom wants to be a younster again rite... she wants to be your age and you be the adult as she throws tantrums and stuff... Leave home, thats my suggestion.