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Keeping Score

Whenever I get into an argument with my boyfriend, I really find it offensive when he tells me to "How many times have I ...." or "You did this X many times". I've talked to him about it, telling him that it seems negative to remember all exact times.

I never count the times, nor do I really remember them in such detail.

"Love keeps no record of wrongs"

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aznboisings ranted 6 years, 8 months ago.
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anonymous commented on this rant 6 years, 8 months ago.

In a loving relationship, wrongs are always used to improve oneself and the relationship.. You learn from them.

But keeping score like that is pretty hurtful to the relationship. :(

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I_Agree commented on this rant 6 years, 8 months ago.

Yeah, this. I don't keep score in my relationships. However, I do remember if something was done in the past. I would think that keeping score would mean that it's something that's important to them. I'm not sure, but it really depends on what those things are.

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anonymous commented on this rant 6 years, 8 months ago.

YAY! This is the 2nd time you've "This"-ed my comments!!

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I_Agree commented on this rant 6 years, 8 months ago.

Well, anon, I guess I caught you twice.

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anonymous commented on this rant 6 years, 8 months ago.

Sounds a little closed minded. I think I knew people like that. They were takers, instead of givers. They used the mistakes you've made to justify all the things they've done to you. In the end, they use the same excuse to get things in their favor. The other person always gives in, but the relationship still broke apart.

The only thing you can do is, make a deal with them. Start fresh. If it's love, you both can make it happen. Agree to erase everything you two have done wrong to each other and never bring it up again. Declare that bringing it up equate to lack of genuine love. See if you two can agree on it. That way, you can start fresh and continue your relationship with positive things. This is a sacrifice that people can make for true love. There are occasions where things won't work out no matter what you do. It could be caused by lack of compatibility. American or Chinese Zodiac is something to keep in mind. You can argue all the time because your signs are not compatible with each other. I've come to believe it, since it's been very accurate for me. You should look at both of your birth date and see if it's compatible. You might find something interesting.

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Jasper commented on this rant 6 years, 8 months ago.

Takers will always be takers, and givers will always be givers.

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BigElephant commented on this rant 6 years, 8 months ago.

I thought this was great advice up until the whole astrology part. Some people don't believe in that stuff, so I guess it depends on the person.