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There's a girl I barely talked to from work that's trying to get information from me about her ex. I helped her more than other people when we first met but we didn't talk much afterward. We started talking again recently after bumping into each other. She seemed very interested in making friends with me now for some reason. I'm under the impression that it's because she wants to know why her ex would tell me that they broke up. She have always said that he's a very private person and she's been bringing that same subject up evertime she got the chance. She says he's a liar among other bad things and that she really hates him. Even though I told her it was nothing, she kept emphazing how she's confused about why her ex would tell me that they broke up because he's a very private person.

I don't know her or her ex very well and I don't want to make them hate each other any more than they do after the bad break up. My friend says maybe she's so curious because she was thinking about getting back with him and what I knew was important to her decision. Her ex asked me out to lunch twice while they were still together but it was probably more of a friend thing. I also saw him talking to attractive girls when she's not around. Does it mean anything? I'm not someone in a position to judge. I honestly don't know him. I've never gone to lunch with him. The only things I talk to him about is important things that we needed to take care of at work. I feel guilty for not giving her the details but I don't know either of them well to know who to help. Her ex did a lot of favors for me at work so that's another reason I'd feel like crap for saying anything.

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anonymous ranted 8 years, 6 months ago.
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Calai commented on this rant 8 years, 6 months ago.

You just shouldn't say anything or you'll get caught in the middle. Let them handle their problems and tell her to leave you alone. ^_^

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anonymous commented on this rant 8 years, 5 months ago.

That's probably the best thing to do. =)

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elle commented on this rant 8 years, 5 months ago.

"probably" is not the applicable term here.

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elle commented on this rant 8 years, 5 months ago.

Many people are like that in their mindset to try and pry for information or to get you to talk about another person through general conversation. Naturally, a person who doesn't engage is best but someone who doesn't start the conversation on such is almost as good.

With that said, this "girl" isn't really a good person to have as a friend. If you've helped her more than other people and the friendship/communication died down, then that should be flag numero uno. And now your perception is she's prying for information and has another agenda, which she probably does don't get me wrong.. but really, she just might be a negative person dwelling and add on the spite that she has. Some if not many girls find it hard fought to not dwell on relationship things. She's not getting the hints and is oblivious to how she is behaving so really, I wouldn't pay much mind personally.

Simple fact I CANNOT REITERATE ENOUGH is, "not your s***." Don't feel guilty. This isn't your s***, don't get involved. You guys are purely a work-friend relationship and the bs you're being dragged near is personal.

Irregardless whether your co-worker told you everything about the relationship and not just "we broke up", seriously, not your s***.

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anonymous commented on this rant 8 years, 5 months ago.

Girls need to stop dwelling on things from the past. It shouldn't matter anymore and yet they're always so curious about it. =/

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anonymous commented on this rant 8 years, 5 months ago.

I did see "flag numero uno". I'm going to try and stay away from her since it's not my s***.

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hunterblu32 commented on this rant 8 years, 5 months ago.

let them deal w/their own BS! U say something or befriend her..U are going to get caught in the crossfire! Let's face it..women use sneaky tactics to get back @ their Xs! Even if U do not say anything..she will run to her X & say that U said this or that! Dude, stay outta it! Do not befriend her & try to keep ur relationship w/her X as strictly business as U can! Good Luck!

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anonymous commented on this rant 8 years, 5 months ago.

Thanks. I was thinking that she might say something to her ex. That's one of the reasons I didn't say anything to her.