Tired of being a nice guy

I thought I found the person I'd want to spend the rest of my life with. My judgments are usually pretty accurate. Of all times, this is the time where I'm most wrong. I'm a simple guy just looking for a very good girl to settle down with who loves me very much in return. I wasn't attracted to her looks or personality. We saw each other in class almost everyday. I never bothered talking to her until one day when we were both alone after class working on something. We ended up talking and getting to know each other from that day. I started to feel awkward when she would pass by or sit close to me to take notes or whatever. There still wasn't any attraction. A week passed and she started offering to do nice things for me. We ended up talking more and even hung out together outside of class eventually. Based on information that I gathered from her, she was a great gal and was certainly very innocent as I had expected. I knew she had a crush on me but I wasn't serious with her. I indirectly told her a lot of times while we hung out that I wasn't interested. I knew she got the point because her expression and attitude would change from being sweet to something I didn't like seeing. More time passed and we got closer. I thought since I told her I wasn't interested, she wouldn't take anything seriously. One night, we ended up kissing and she assumed we're together officially! I didn't want to be an a****** and break the girl's heart so I went with it. Plus, I'm not a very picky guy and she does meet my basic requirement.

Everything was very sweet after we were together. I felt like an a****** for not having feelings for her. I did things that I usually don't do to get us closer so that I can maybe have genuine feelings for this girl who fell head over heels for me. I didn't want her to find out the truth, so I had to get myself together asap. I ended up falling for her in a timely manner and no longer had guilts everytime I saw her. Things went well. It got to the point where I can see us settling down together.

That's when problems started kicking in. As a result, I found out the truth about her. It turns out she's not as genuine and innocent as I thought. She's a bit on the shallow side and her thought process doesn't make much sense. To seal the deal, I found out she also lied about many things in order to be with me. I've had it! No more mr. nice guy!

| Cancel

anonymous ranted 8 years, 10 months ago.
Rant viewed 84 times.


 comments for this rant

Please log in or sign up before commenting

elle commented on this rant 8 years, 10 months ago.

I want to know the examples that demonstrate how she wasn't as genuine and innocent as you thought. They are your perception and assumptions of her so in a way, she isn't fully to blame. It is human and common for people to build others up in their own minds in order to generate attraction/appeal. It is harder to do with real chemistry and interaction.

Do have to agree somewhat with Jaspers' assessment about shallowness, lying or "hiding truths" to not create problems, etc.

anonymous commented on this rant 8 years, 10 months ago.

She told me she have never fallen for anyone before and I was her first this and that. I didn't give her any hint to suggest it was necessary to do that!

TheTeller commented on this rant 8 years, 10 months ago.

"she told me she *has* never"

Jasper commented on this rant 8 years, 10 months ago.

What an anticlimactic story.
"Oh no, she's shallow and doesn't think logically!"
You just described about half the female population there buddy. s***, half the male population too, to be honest.
"I found out she also lied about many things in order to be with me."
Yeah, well, everyone lies about themselves to appear a better person. It's natural.
And it doesn't sound like a case of Mr. Nice Guy. More like Guy Who Lets People Walk All Over Him Because He Can't Say No.

anonymous commented on this rant 8 years, 10 months ago.

I get your point but like you said, it's ONLY half of the female population buddy.