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Great Person, OK Sex.

I'm currently dating a guy who I like very much. But the sex is really just OK. He is not as adventurous as I am in bed and it really gets quite boring. I find myself enjoying our sex life not nearly as much as he is. He is otherwise a great guy but sex is a HUGE part of the relationship in my opinion. Any advice?

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anonymous ranted 7 years, 4 months ago.
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georgie1 commented on this rant 5 years, 5 months ago.

I compromised a boring sex life for a man who I got on well with in every other respect and married him anyway. There wasnt much chemistry between us but i thought I loved him enough for it not to matter. In the long term though it did matter and i made a big mistake. We are still married but our sex life is now completely non existent. I dont believe in cheating, so basically I live like a nun. Even in a relationship with strong physical attraction the sex will get a bit boring after a while and will need some effort on both parts to keep it alive, but if you never had it in the first place - then it will quickly dissipate completely. ~Try and get him to open up a bit in the bedroom department but if he won't, take my advice and move on - keep him as a friend if you can.

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anonymous commented on this rant 7 years, 4 months ago.

Girl, let me tell you this: One of the REQUIREMENTS for a successful relationship is communication. If sex is all that binds you to a relationship, then dump him. But, because he's a great guy, let sex come second, and let HIM be first. You MUST discuss how you feel about this with him. Although it'll shoot his ego down, this is a problem that CAN be fixed, and I think in the end, his ego will heal and you'll have a great guy + awesome sex. :)

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anonymous commented on this rant 7 years, 3 months ago.

Great sex is LEARNED!!! So teach him ;-)

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elle commented on this rant 7 years, 4 months ago.

I think another part of a relationship is communication, maturity, and being able to compromise. Are you both able to talk about sex and positions etc? If not then you might have to create a situation where you both can have this discussion and you can convey how you truly feel. Because he's a guy, he'll be hurt and it'll be a blow to his ego but this is what it takes in order for you to enjoy it. Hopefully his ego will come back up after he now knows he's satisfying you more than just "OK." I think it'd be a big blow to my ego but it might just be me.

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anonymous commented on this rant 7 years, 4 months ago.

"Relaciones"

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anonymous commented on this rant 7 years, 4 months ago.

The benefit to him not being into sex is that he's probably not the type to sleep around or cheat on you. If you go with a guy who's very into sex, he'll likely give into temptation and cheat on you, especially when he's drunk and out of control.

I'd say it's a BIG blessing to have a great guy who's not into sex. Plus, I think the more genuine, innocent guys and real great guys are the ones that will be less into sex but more into YOU as a person.

Sex should not be a HUGE part of a relationship because that's just the physical aspect that you can eventually get tired of. The biggest part of a relationship is finding that someone special to share your struggles, joy, happiness, good times and bad times with, knowing that they'll always be there for you. :)

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elle commented on this rant 7 years, 4 months ago.

1. I don't think the original poster is that fluffy light-hearted. No offense to you OP.

2. The guy enjoys the sex more than she does. He's not as adventurous as her. She's bored.

3. I do agree with the higher chance that if he were adventurous, he'd be more of a playboy. If he was much more fixated on just the physical, same outcome.

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Jasper commented on this rant 7 years, 4 months ago.

Sex, ie, the physical part of a relationship, is JUST as important as an emotional connection. A s***ty sex life will lead to not being physically attracted to each other anymore, and at that point you guys might as well break it off, remain friends, and call it a day because there isn't any point in going out if the relationship is going to be platonic in nature. The key here is communication. You have to communicate to him that you're not enjoying the sex life anymore. If he's unresponsive then the best bet would probably be trying to escalate things a little bit, gradually turning things a little kinkier. But the most important thing is clearly communicating to him that you want more out of the physical side of your relationship.