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Girl's Advice? (Part 2)

Thanks for the great responses people.

Has this term haunted any of the guys out there? "friend zone" Ever been stuck in one. I've been in a few and trust me girls, it s*cks to be in one. Had my heart broken before because one of them used me, badly. But in the end, I can't help how I feel towards them. I think it can be a good thing to date your friends. It helps get rid of the awkward stage of having to get to know someone before you start dating. Girls, what do you think of this "friend zone?" guys, ever been stuck in one?

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Not to confuse anyone, but friend zone is deemed for a guy when a girl friend (not to be confused with girlfriend) does not think of the male as being a potential boyfriend. THATS IT! I do believe males and females can be friends without any sexual attraction. If you believe otherwise, than good luck trusting your better half. Not to mean I wont get jealous if there is a guy who likes my gf but I am secure enough to trust her and know that she loves me and only me. I have been in friend zones before my current gf as I referred to above. Hope to clear this up.

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Who_Am_I ranted 7 years, 2 months ago.
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anonymous commented on this rant 7 years, 2 months ago.

I'm going to give you the same response as the other rant that was posted, since it's almost identical:

I think its great that you're a nice guy but have you thought about how the girl would feel about you having a bunch of friends that are girls? On top of that, you're open to dating your friends that are girls.... that's a big turn off if you were the guy trying to ask a girl out.

If you're sweet and romantic with practically every girl then what difference does it make for that girl who's going to be with you? There's nothing special about the way you treat her.

When you find the girl that's special to you, make it special.... don't let her be someone you're choosing out of a pool of girls you're okay with being with. Everyone wants to be that special person to their partner, I think that's the key to winning a girl's heart.... =)

It's also a BIG turnoff that your judgement is not very good since you let all these girls use you. If I was the girl you're going after, I'd think you're trying too hard to get a girlfriend so you're trying to do things for all these girls in hopes of being with them. You should only have feelings for ONE person. This might be why you're not successful with any one of them! You also need to separate friendship and dating. There should be a clear line. It's either you're friends or you're interested in each other. This is another reason why guys that have female as friends is such a big turnoff!

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Who_Am_I commented on this rant 7 years, 2 months ago.

I think friendship and dating are interconnected. Only difference is that in dating, you are trying to become more intimate and personal with the other person. Having a friendship before dating is a great advantage, it acts as the foundation for the whole relationship. My current gf was one of my closest friends before we went out. It's been 3 years now but it feels as though I have known her my whole life. We are great together and both of us are extremely happy. This doesn't work out for every couple but I think it gives better chances of it working out. Most couples I know had to have been friends before, most previous relationships with no friendship beforehand led to disaster and lasted less than 1 month.

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anonymous commented on this rant 7 years, 2 months ago.

look pal, if you had a crush on just one girl and you wanted to be her friend to get to know her, that's very sweet and perfect! if you like more than one girl and you're friends with them with the possibility of getting into a relationship, that's not right! I'm not saying that you should not make friends with the girl you like. I'm saying that you should not have a bunch of friends that are girls who you're open to dating.

i usually already know if i want to be with a guy or not after getting to know him a little bit. i would cut off the friendship if i know the guy has hope of being with me because i'm the sure type of gal. if i've made up my mind that i don't want to be with someone, i do not want to give them hope and waste their time. i like to make things very clear to people so nobody gets hurt.

i'm the more stern type of gal so i guess i prefer someone similar. i don't want some indecisive guy who's going to make out with a girl or do whatever just because she approached him! it shows a very weak charater in a guy. plus, if it's the guy i like, he'd be more of a workaholic and wouldn't have time going around impressing girls.

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Who_Am_I commented on this rant 7 years, 2 months ago.

glad that you don't play games with the other guys. To clear up more of this confusion, no it isn't right to have many girls who you are friends with purely because you want to "get with them." I was meaning by being friends with the opposite sex, the girl would strictly shut the door to being in a relationship with the guy. Of course this door should be shut if she is already in a relationship.

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anonymous commented on this rant 7 years, 2 months ago.

are you saying that you're okay with your girlfriend having a bunch of guyfriends that are interested in dating her? you're okay with her hanging out with them while dating you?

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Who_Am_I commented on this rant 7 years, 2 months ago.

Are you assuming that guys and girls can never be friends without some kind of attraction? read edit above.