Those are two 'expressions' that I've been finding a lot lately: Nice guy and Friend zone.
The view I've always had of men is pretty general. At first, I defended them 100%. "Women are so complicated and bitchy" ... "They're too difficult to understand" .. "They need to lighten up" because my mother and my sister would be real asses to their husbands over really idiotic things. In fact, jokes that made me burst out laughing would usually end up in them rolling their eyes.
Maybe it was all the negative (and constant) opinions I heard about men or how things turned out to be for my sister and mother when their husbands rebelled against them and they both ended up divorced, but at some point along the way I lose my faith in them. I began seeing those friendly and admirable people, that I actually WANTED to be like, as some disgusting and idiotic creatures. Inferior to me.
At some point, I realized I was part of the stupid stereotype of "women fall for bad boys" .. Every nice and hyper guy from shows, animes, anything.. They'd annoy the hell out of me. But the bad guys? Ah, they were an inspiration. Whether it was me being attracted to them as a woman or wanting to be like them. (Yeah, long story.)
I can't not analyze things and it annoys me to not understand or not be sure about certain subjects. Like men. It became such an 'obsession' that whenever I watched a romance movie or anything to do with love, I'd wonder if it was even possible that they could be as heartless and shallow as they all SEEM to be.
But, it's impossible. They're humans, aren't they? They also have feelings, they just can't be the way movies and even THEY say they are, the way they portray themselves as.
Instead of being completely hypnotized by the men in movies and the romances, how 'magical' and all that.. I kept trying to picture a guy being like them. Sweet,caring, HUMAN.
Now, some time ago, I saw a guy was ranting about how he had been after this girl since they were in high school and she was a total idiot and ignored him, how they always put the nice and sweet guys in the friend zone. It makes us women sound so stupid and blind-- And you know, perhaps we are. But I agree with the ones that had commented, it's not good enough JUST being nice. You have to have qualities that the girl is looking for.. We all have our 'tastes'.
But, no, that's not what I wanted to talk about. I'm not even sure what "THAT" was.. I just know that it feels as if I just suddenly entered a whole new 'phase' where these two words are going to be relevant at some point.. Nice guy and Friend zone.
It's confusing. I don't think men understand that they're not the only ones puzzled by us women.. In fact, the entire battle of the sexes is plainly annoying and bothersome. Why can't we go a single day without pointing fingers and highlighting how "complicated" and "dramatic" women are.. Just like how "perverted" and "shallow" some men are.
It'd be nice to, for once, have equality-- COMPLETE equality. No damn stereotypes that make everything so difficult... As if no one had gender and you had to actually get to know the person to see if you like him or her.
But, I guess I'm just another one of the thousands of people out there saying this, for the who-knows-what time ... And it's not ever going to change, is it?